Love versus the Human Condition

A good friend is struggling with a relationship. And who hasn't? I offer to you my response to his Facebook status...

Nelson S. -
...why do we hurt the ones we love and love us the most?...what is the upside to this?...or is it just a fraility of the human condition?..

Brian Fairbrother -
Off the top of my head the answer is - investment and commitment. The more you have invested in and the more you are committed to a relationship, the level of joy (and pain) grows proportionally. We typically do not hurt the ones we do not love (as much) because of the lack of depth in these encounters.

The upside? The strengthened bond that can emerge from these darker times.

As to labeling this 'a condition of human frailty'? Perhaps, but there is an opt out clause: +


Love in itself can do no harm but the bottom line is...we are all human and when we act out of the weakness of our human nature, we can hurt those we love.